My Child Doesn't Want to See Me Anymore and I Don't Understand Why

More and more we are getting messages in the spirit of "My child doesn't want to see me anymore, my daughter broke off the relationship, but I have no idea why." What is causing this and what can you do, if this has happened to you? 

Why Does My Child Not Want to See Me?

That this is extra common now is partly because of the elaboration of certain astrological and energetic aspects. 

Astrological Aspects

In July 2023, the lunar axis shifted to Aries and Libra. This will remain so until January 2025. It triggers a reassessment of relationships. Plus the search for a new balance between the desire for autonomy and the need for interdependence.

Pluto is square to this axis. Pluto brings out problems, tensions, emotional disturbances, revealing truths, etc., and confronts you with them. When it has been tucked away in the past, sooner or later Pluto causes an eruption so the confrontation happens anyway. 

Energetic Aspects

We are in a transition from earth energy to air energy. This changes everything you have ever relied on. 

Everything goes faster. Where it used to take several lifetimes to resolve karma (energetic life lessons), now it can be done in a few years. You can make great leaps forward quickly, but also have great setbacks quickly. Especially within parent-child relationships with many karmic connections. 

Existing relationships change and you enter into new relationships with much more focus. This is because layers of consciousness have been created. This allows you to better see through the level of consciousness of the other person. It also becomes more and more visible when someone is in a different level of consciousness and you actually have nothing in common. 

Recalibrating Relationships, including Parent-Child Relationships

Through a combination of all these aspects, a recalibration takes place in everyone, consciously or unconsciously. Who am I? What do I want? What values do I have? How much freedom and autonomy do I have, and what do I need? And which of my (family) relationships (still) fit this?

In seeking a new balance, you may make a choice that is temporary rather than permanent. For example, that you end a relationship because you now need more space and freedom to clarify or resolve certain issues within yourself. Or that you end a relationship because you (unconsciously) act as a mirror for the other person who has something to resolve in himself. 

Confrontation with Yourself

Because of all these aspects, in particular, 2023 and to a lesser extent 2024 are the years of confrontation with yourself. What you have tucked away in the past, or have not seen or wanted to see, will be presented to you. For instance, through your family relationships. After all, the working out of a karma situation requires 2 karmic roles the one who causes it and the one who happens to it.

If your child no longer wants to see you and you don't understand why, it may be due to one of the aspects listed. 

  • For example, because your child is searching for a new balance and wants to be seen for who he or she essentially is rather than the role he or she has within the family.
  • Or that you yourself have certain life lessons to learn and your child is the mirror. In this case, your child has taken on the karmic role of causer, and by ending the relationship, he or she "forces" you to take on this life lesson and resolve this part in yourself.
  • It may also be that you have different levels of consciousness in many areas that cause your child to no longer feel understood or no longer feel part of the family

Change Starts with Yourself

You cannot change the other person, but you can change yourself. While it's obviously very sad and painful when your child doesn't want to see you, and it can also feel very incomprehensible, there are things you can do to make the situation more bearable for yourself and deal with your part. 

What is a Family System?

Although you are an individual, you are also part of family systems. Families in this life, such as the family you were born into and any in-laws. But also families from other lives. 

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"Be yourself, then it doesn't take energy to pretend to be different. People around you who don't accept you for who you are are not worth putting energy into.

Tricky story when the persons are your parents. Less so when it's family. And even less so when it's the society you surround yourself with.

The longest stretch of your life, you live under your own responsibility. Take that responsibility when your environment prevents you from being yourself."

Spiritual Books

Each of these books provides insight about the energetic relationships you have with your family:

  1. Je zijn: how energy works, including within the family
  2. Je wil: how (family) systems work and how metaphysical laws and forces operate on them
  3. Je last: the influence of karma on your life, including family karma
Your Being, from Your Being you have access to everything you need: come into your power | Spiritual book | Astrid van Pluuren and Jarno Tiethoff

Book Your Being

This book:

  • provides insight into all layers of your energy system, what affects it and how you yourself can influence it. Energetically as well as practically. 
  • contains exercises to get rid of energy that doesn't belong to you, and to shield your energy field. 
  • is full of tips on how to lift your energy system to a higher frequency so that you will be in your power, energized, and better able to direct your life.
Your Beliefs | Do you truly believe that activating metaphysical laws will enrich your life? Astrid van Pluuren and Jarno Tiethoff.

Book Your Beliefs

This book: 

  • provides insight into the hierarchy and operation of 42 metaphysical laws and forces.
  • contains exercises so that you learn to consciously activate higher laws to change the energetic setting of your life.
  • helps you balance your feminine and masculine power so that you can maximize your life force. 
Your Karma | From a hard lesson to a driving force: transform Your Karma. Spiritual book by Astrid van Pluuren and Jarno Tiethoff

Book Your Karma

This book:

  • provides insight into karma, its origins and how it is expressed.
  • is full of examples of karmic situations for clarification.
  • contains healing exercises that enable you to reduce your karma and (partially) heal the resulting burden.

The vivid examples give you an insight into what a healing is and what emerges during healing.

Online Session, including Healing: Specifically Focused on Family (issues)

Forces of Resistance | Healing

If you have a belief in yourself that you don't want something or are resisting something, it comes right into your life. Often it becomes a resistance which creates blockages.

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