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My Child Doesn't Want to See Me Anymore and I Don't Understand Why
More and more we are getting messages in the spirit of "My child doesn't want to see me anymore, my daughter broke off the relationship, but I have no idea why." What is causing this and what can you do, if this has happened to you?
Why Does My Child Not Want to See Me?
That this is extra common now is partly because of the elaboration of certain astrological and energetic aspects.Â
Astrological Aspects
In July 2023, the lunar axis shifted to Aries and Libra. This will remain so until January 2025. It triggers a reassessment of relationships. Plus the search for a new balance between the desire for autonomy and the need for interdependence.
Pluto is square to this axis. Pluto brings out problems, tensions, emotional disturbances, revealing truths, etc., and confronts you with them. When it has been tucked away in the past, sooner or later Pluto causes an eruption so the confrontation happens anyway.Â
Energetic Aspects
We are in a transition from earth energy to air energy. This changes everything you have ever relied on.Â
Everything goes faster. Where it used to take several lifetimes to resolve karma (energetic life lessons), now it can be done in a few years. You can make great leaps forward quickly, but also have great setbacks quickly. Especially within parent-child relationships with many karmic connections.Â
Existing relationships change and you enter into new relationships with much more focus. This is because layers of consciousness have been created. This allows you to better see through the level of consciousness of the other person. It also becomes more and more visible when someone is in a different level of consciousness and you actually have nothing in common.Â
Recalibrating Relationships, including Parent-Child Relationships
Through a combination of all these aspects, a recalibration takes place in everyone, consciously or unconsciously. Who am I? What do I want? What values do I have? How much freedom and autonomy do I have, and what do I need? And which of my (family) relationships (still) fit this?
In seeking a new balance, you may make a choice that is temporary rather than permanent. For example, that you end a relationship because you now need more space and freedom to clarify or resolve certain issues within yourself. Or that you end a relationship because you (unconsciously) act as a mirror for the other person who has something to resolve in himself.Â
Confrontation with Yourself
Because of all these aspects, in particular, 2023 and to a lesser extent 2024 are the years of confrontation with yourself. What you have tucked away in the past, or have not seen or wanted to see, will be presented to you. For instance, through your family relationships. After all, the working out of a karma situation requires 2 karmic roles the one who causes it and the one who happens to it.
If your child no longer wants to see you and you don't understand why, it may be due to one of the aspects listed.Â
- For example, because your child is searching for a new balance and wants to be seen for who he or she essentially is rather than the role he or she has within the family.
- Or that you yourself have certain life lessons to learn and your child is the mirror. In this case, your child has taken on the karmic role of causer, and by ending the relationship, he or she "forces" you to take on this life lesson and resolve this part in yourself.
- It may also be that you have different levels of consciousness in many areas that cause your child to no longer feel understood or no longer feel part of the family.Â
Change Starts with Yourself
You cannot change the other person, but you can change yourself. While it's obviously very sad and painful when your child doesn't want to see you, and it can also feel very incomprehensible, there are things you can do to make the situation more bearable for yourself and deal with your part.Â
- The meditation healing Self-love supports you during the (invisible) grieving process.Â
- The book Healing Program Family helps you resolve family karma, family roles and energy in the family line that are not appropriate for your life lessons.Â
- With the healing on Forces of Resistance dissolves blockages arising from unhealthy forms of resistance.Â
