What is an (Invisible) Grieving Process?
A grieving process is saying goodbye to something or someone. There are visible and invisible grief processes.
Often we associate a grieving process only with death. In such a case, it is also very clear to those around you that you are in a grieving process. But much more often you are in an invisible grieving process.
What are Invisible Grief Processes and do I have them too?
An invisible grieving process is when you have to say goodbye to something or someone without it ceasing to exist, for example:
- When you find out that something is different from what you thought. Then you have to say goodbye to your old thoughts or beliefs.
- If you come to the conclusion that it's better not to do something or you know that it's actually not going to happen even though you would have liked it. Then you have to say goodbye to that wish.
- When you realize that it is better to no longer maintain a relationship. Then you have to say goodbye to a future together.
Saying goodbye to something or someone usually means taking a different path than you had previously imagined or desired. And while many of these invisible grieving processes stem from your own choices and decisions, that doesn't mean they are any less intense.
Heaviness of an Invisible Grief Process
Invisible grief processes can be even more intense for you. Precisely because it is invisible to others. Everyone has their own inner world and projection on the outer world. So, the world can perish, but that doesn't mean your world will perish too. And your world can perish, but that doesn't mean the world perishes. Exactly the latter refers to invisible grief processes.
Fortunately, during such periods you can give yourself more love, acceptance, and forgiveness. More gentleness toward yourself. You do that with the meditation-healing Self-love, this meditation-healing supports you during grieving processes.