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From Infatuation To Genuine Connection: the Evolution of a Healthy Relationship
A relationship develops through the energy exchanges that take place. Giving and taking. In a healthy relationship, this is in balance.Â
Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship
Individuality within unity
Uniqueness and interplay
Personal space within a shared base
Keeping the same vision in mind and working toward it together, each in their own way
Allowing each other freedom, wishing each other the best, and offering support (and a nudge when necessary)
Relationship with life lessons and karma
Especially in romantic relationships and families with children, it is common for someone to completely lose themselves. This is an unconscious and gradual process. When you spend a lot of time together, your energy field continuously resonates with that of the other person and you easily go along with that shared energy field. This way, you can put your own wishes and needs aside for years without even noticing.
Until you wake up from the energy and realize what you are doing. Then the search for yourself begins. Because if you ignore yourself for a long time, you often no longer know who you are and what you like or want.
You can prevent this by regularly spending time alone, shielding and cleansing your energy field, and optimizing your energy cords. How to do this is explained in the book Your Being.
Perspective on Healthy Relationships
An example in which we have described our view of a healthy relationship using symbolism:
Imagine that a tree represents you as a person. Some interests are your life path, the trunk of the tree. The branches with leaves symbolize your behaviors and search for knowledge about who you are. The sun symbolizes knowledge.
By allowing your branches and leaves to grow, you gain knowledge and experience. You grow ever larger branches to absorb more sunlight (knowledge). They overshadow your earlier branches, causing old behaviors to be deprived of nourishment and die off. This makes you more beautiful and powerful. You grow into a solitary tree with a magnificent crown.
One day, your branch touches another branch. Someone suddenly enters your space, where you thought you had all the room in the world. You get to know someone who becomes your partner. In the beginning, it's a journey of discovery and exploration. Like falling in love.
You feel that you are meant for each other, to grow together for the rest of your lives. And then it turns out that you have branches that get in each other's way when you want to grow further: behaviors that were fine when you were alone, but when you want to move forward together, choices have to be made.
You can see this with two trees that are close together. Originally standing alone, but from the moment the trees' branches began to encroach on each other's space, a decision was made to prune branches to make space.
You know, this isn't that difficult. Maybe you recognize it. That you exhibited certain behavior purely out of a lack of a valuable partner. Filling the day with nonsense that doesn't necessarily contribute to your life because of a sense of loss. In the phase of exploring and getting to know each other, it's not difficult at all to make choices. Saying goodbye to things you would otherwise have naturally said goodbye to in the future.
When you look up at two tree trunks standing close together, a few years down the line, there are no more pruning marks. The trees give each other space to develop together. You can love someone's beautiful sides and their ugly sides. Don't emphasize the other person's ugly side, but perhaps show your own beauty here. This means not wanting to change the other person, but allowing them to flourish where necessary.
That you might want to develop a certain part yourself, but you grant the other person that space. Because you see that the other person is better suited to it. And you have the patience to discover that part later, if necessary. That the other person recognizes and acknowledges this, and gives or relinquishes that space. That this happens naturally, that it resolves itself, because you have grown beyond the situation.
This is precisely the secret to a healthy and long-lasting marriage. It is important to form and be a unit. Only then can you be strong together and face sunny days. But also storms. Because when you haven't developed a certain part of yourself, you know that the other person will protect you in that area, and vice versa.
